A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay to his bones.
A good woman is hard to find and is worth more than even the most precious stones. A good wife brings life to her husband, but a frigid woman is like cancer to his bones.
How do you treat your husband? Are you loyal and trustworthy to him? Do you lift him up and bring him joy? Or, Is he forces to walk on egg shells around you?
As a wife I am taking a sober self assessment of myself through the eyes of God in this Proverbs 31 study. It is not a comparison of me vs. the Proverbs 31 woman, but more like I am actually reading the directions or the “Wife Guide”.
I am reflecting on just this past week alone and seeing areas that are in need of improvements. A few areas that stood out to me as I read today’s scripture are the area of trust and the area of joy.
Can my husband trust me to lift him up? Am I being loyal and faithful as a wife in this area? I’m not talking about infidelity, but, of being 100% behind him. Even when he messes up am I there to encourage him or am I there to throw stones?
Do I bring joy to my husband? Does he come home and expect me to greet him with joy or is he quietly sneaking in to test the waters before letting his guard down? Do I force him to walk on egg shells around me? Am I a safe refuge for him?
Are you like a ruby to your husband?
The truth is that most of the time I fail!!!!!!
I do not appear as a glistening jewel. Instead I probably look like a giant thorny cactus! (and really who wants to cuddle and love a cactus?)
I greet my husband with complaints as soon as he walks in, I allow my emotions to control my behavior, I grip, I tear him down, I am CANCER to his bones!
so know that I got that out of the way!
How can I make it better? How can God make me better? I believe that this step is already happening. Just by participating in this study he has shown me areas in need of improvement! My job is to just remain faithful to God and his calling. To yield to Him instead of my own actions. Allow God to transform my wants and desires to His wants and desires.
Lord, forgive me for not relying on you. Help my husband to forgive me for the times that I have not been faithful in bringing him joy and lifting him up. I lift us up to you Lord. Help me to follow your example of love to others especially my husband. Help me bring him joy instead of pain. Help him to see me through your eyes. Amen